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12 Deathbed Regrets You Still Have Time And Should Avoid

12 Deathbed Regrets You Still Have Time And Should Avoid

Use these as inspiration to make changes in your life while you can.

No one says on his or her deathbed, “Oh, if only I had spent more time at work!” Regret comes in relation to “what I did and what I did not do” throughout one’s life.

A Dominican friar from Colombia, Fr. Nelson Medina, OP, has assembled a list of the most common regrets he’s heard expressed by people he has accompanied at the end of their lives.

Why not use this list as an opportunity to do some soul-searching and commit to living a little differently? Then, all you have to do is pray and ask for the grace to live in this way so you can avoid having any of these regrets at the hour of your own death.

In this gallery of images, you will find the most common regrets heard on people’s deathbeds.

1. For the times I gave a bad example and people followed it.

2. For my indifference to the suffering of my neighbour.

3. For not offering words of praise, recognition, and encouragement to those who deserved and needed them.

4. For quickly taking credit for my successes, but blaming the circumstances for my failures.

5. For not respecting the innocence of a person, or for hindering the dreams of another.

6. For having spent money on things I did not need and never used.

7. For the times I took too long to forgive others and didn’t make a big enough effort to do it faster.

8. For taking advantage of those who loved me, simply for selfish motives.

9. For not guiding well those whom I should have educated better before it was too late

10. For not visiting or spending more time with my neighbour, because I didn’t find him sufficiently interesting, educated, or useful.

11. For wasting so much time on useless things — time which is lost forever

12. For enjoying flattery, even when I knew it was false.

13. For complaining more often than I gave thanks.

14. For the coarse, vulgar, or rude words that came out of my mouth.

15. For participating in conversations that mocked God, the Faith, or the Church.

16. For the many times I ran from the cross.

17. For the promises, I didn’t fulfil.

18. For the moments I could’ve and should’ve prayed more and, above all, loved more.

19. For ignoring Jesus.

20. For hurting my neighbour in one way or another.

21. For not loving enough – because I should’ve loved God and my neighbour much more

21 Strong Regrets People Confess on Their Deathbeds

21 Strong Regrets People Confess on Their Deathbeds

Some of these seem all too familiar…

We’ve all heard the old saying that “People on their deathbeds don’t say, ‘I wish I’d spent more time at work…’”

More often, people’s regrets are truly about “what I have done, and what I have failed to do.”

A Spanish priest, Father Nelson, has listed the sort of regrets he has often heard while accompanying the dying.

These regrets seem all too familiar to us, and the list seems well-worth keeping before our eyes, for the good of our souls, and our hearts and minds, too!

We might even use this list as an examination of conscience, or to help us to pray for the grace to live in a way that might prevent our feeling these regrets later in our lives.

1. For the times when I set a bad example, and there were people who followed my lead
2. For my indifference in the face of someone’s suffering
3. For failing to say so many words of praise, recognition and encouragement to those who deserved them or needed them
4. For claiming credit for my triumphs but blaming my failures on circumstances
5. For having failed to respect someone’s innocence or having blocked someone’s dreams
6. That I wasted money on things that I didn’t need and never used
7. For the times I took too much time and not enough effort to forgive
8. For taking advantage of someone who loved me, in order to get something for myself
9. For not being careful to guide those I should have educated better before it was too late
10. For not visiting or sharing time with people because I thought they weren’t interesting, educated or useful
11. For fleeing the cross so many times
12. For savouring adulation even while knowing it was false
13. For complaining much more often than I gave thanks
14. For the stubborn, vulgar or rude words that came out of my mouth
15. For participating in conversations making fun of God, the faith or the Church
16. For wasting so much time on empty things… time that can’t be gotten back
17. For the promises, I didn’t keep
18. For the times that I could have and should have prayed more, and above all, with more love
19. For ignoring Jesus. The solitude of Christ in the tabernacle hurts me
20. That I hurt or harmed someone in any way
21. For lacking love. I should have loved God and my neighbour much more.

Source: aleteia.org