Tag: Adultery

How to Stop The Sin of Adultery and Be Saved

How to Stop The Sin of Adultery and Be Saved

Q. I am married male with the addiction of looking for other women and committing adultery very often. I become very disloyal to my wife despite going to confession. Many times I am doing the same mistake because of the addiction. Can I be saved by God by leaving this sinful life and turn to my Lord? Please reply.

A. This is a question that is ideally addressed more fully at your church by speaking with your priest or even with a good Catholic counselor. It’s difficult to accurately address through this forum. But here are a couple of brief thoughts that are important to understand to help point you in the right direction.

First, the Mercy of God is so perfect and so absolute that He deeply desires to free you from every sin. Committing adultery is a sin and can also become an addiction. When this happens, Confession is essential. But often times the grace of Confession works best when the addiction is also confronted through other means. Try to make an appointment with your priest or seek out a good counselor. Please do visit this link and explore the wisdom offered by this ministry. Have hope and be diligent in seeking freedom.

Secondly, adultery causes deep hurt in marriage. Though God easily forgives when you sincerely confess to Him, don’t expect the hurt in your relationship with your spouse and other family members to be healed overnight. This is an unfair expectation of them. Healing is most certainly possible and reconciliation must be sought and hoped for, but it will require time, patience, mercy, forgiveness and conversion. Don’t be overwhelmed by this, just have hope and commit yourself to doing whatever you need to do so as to bring about healing and a restoration of trust. It may take weeks, months or even years, but seeking this honest reconciliation is essential.

Have hope! And do not use the addiction as an excuse. That may be hard to accept but it is essential that you take responsibility for your actions. Do this within the context of God’s Mercy and unlimited power to free you from every sin. Trust in Him and surrender your life to Him every day. If you do, the Lord will not let you down.

Is Fornication and Using Contraceptives a Venial or Mortal Sin?

Is Fornication and Using Contraceptives a Venial or Mortal Sin?

Both are mortal sins if done with knowledge and consent. In order for a sin to be mortal, there must be grave matter, knowledge, and consent (or, as my first grade teacher put it, it “must be a big sin, I must know it is a sin, and I choose to do it anyway.”

The Catechism of the Catholic Church defines each of these acts as grave matter (bold emphasis added):

“2353 **Fornication **is carnal union between an unmarried man and an unmarried woman. It is gravely contrary to the dignity of persons and of human sexuality which is naturally ordered to the good of spouses and the generation and education of children. Moreover, it is a **grave scandal **when there is corruption of the young.

2370 Periodic continence, that is, the methods of birth regulation based on self-observation and the use of infertile periods, is in conformity with the objective criteria of morality. These methods respect the bodies of the spouses, encourage tenderness between them, and favor the education of an authentic freedom. In contrast, “every action which, whether in anticipation of the conjugal act, or in its accomplishment, or in the development of its natural consequences, proposes, whether as an end or as a means, to render procreation impossible” is intrinsically evil:

Thus the innate language that expresses the total reciprocal self-giving of husband and wife is overlaid, through contraception, by an objectively contradictory language, namely, that of not giving oneself totally to the other. This leads not only to a positive refusal to be open to life but also to a falsification of the inner truth of conjugal love, which is called upon to give itself in personal totality. . . . The difference, both anthropological and moral, between contraception and recourse to the rhythm of the cycle . . . involves in the final analysis two irreconcilable concepts of the human person and of human sexuality.”

Fornication is a Mortal sin. Using a contraceptive during this act is an accessory. The base sin is the Fornication itself.

Not exactly. Both are serious sins in their own right. Even for a married couple, using a contraceptive is a serious sin.